Granny was right …or?

Many of us have probably heard stories about the idle love of our grandparents, how they first met, fell in love and lived together. It is stories like this that raise hope in the head and heart of their offspring, hopes about old-fashioned, timeless love. Girls also must have heard their granny say: You’ll find someone, eventually. And granny was right… or she didn’t?

Times change

The fact is that many things have changed since the moment your granny met your grandpa. Live in the moment. Search what’s the best for you, and don’t pay too much attention to what comes out as normal and desirable. Every era carries its own problems, but its view on romance as well.

Pink glasses

Be real. They have their problems. They quarreled and would even give up from solving their problems but would always come back. Remember, even the fairy tale couples have some issues to work on. They too would get into fights. People tend to exaggerate when they talk about the past and they look things from a different angle. As time goes by they become wiser and more experienced so they stop being so dramatic about everything. Don’ let this fools you. Relationship problems are normal, everyone had it except problems nowadays differ from those several decades ago.

Your time

As nice stories your granny tells you may be, you’ve got a right to write your own story. A genuine story will have its ups and downs. After all, what kind of a fairy tale doesn’t have bad guys, extraordinary twists and turns and a happy ending? Be sure that your love story is only yours, made according to your script, not granny’s, mom’s, or somebody else’s.

When will that happen to me

Probably when you stop thinking about it and get into action. Don’t focus on the bad stuff. Asking when that will happen to you while sitting at home really doesn’t make a sense. Take a walk, meet new people, give a chance to other people to get to know you better, free yourself from judgments. If your relationship doesn’t work, maybe it is the end of that relationship, but it’s not the end of everything. When will that happen? When the right time comes – for you.

Be positive no matter whether you are in a relationship or not. Sometimes we focus too much on a problem, and that can be the worst approach possible. Granny was right about one thing – there is really somebody for you out there. It is up to you to recognize him/her and not to push him/her away with your impossible-to-achieve ideals.

Translation: G. Dujmović