Nothing can cure the soul but the senses just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul.
The ability to feel something is what gives worth and beauty to our existence. A person is not made of stone, so what happens when we realize we live in our imagination? When I finally manage to find some strength to cope with my own thoughts, I realize nobody would probably see how confused I am just from the way I look on the outside. Maybe someone will be there to ask me what’s wrong, I will surely answer it’s nothing, but in fact, it’s everything.
Too much energy is spent on pure waiting for the person we care about to hear us, while actually, there are no right words or the right look which will help him understand – you are hurt. The person looks at you, but cannot see you, he is so preoccupied with his own personal envisioning of the world that nothing can penetrate his being.
And in the end, do you get tired of all this? What’s the use of banging your head against the wall when the only thing you should do is to realize you are unique on this planet! There is not a single person like you, so why let someone bring you harm? We often ask God why did he let us suffer forgetting at the same time no one did not choose a particular path for us, we ourselves are creators of our own destiny. Now, it’s time to take the consequences no matter how unjust that seem to you, but that is what we call – life. Everyone needs to learn his own lesson, easier or the hard way, but the only thing that matters is that we don’t repeat the same mistakes twice.
If you happen to be in a relationship for which even you think is pointless, then you need to get to that point when you don’t care anymore… Easy to say, I know, but believe me, the situation in which you are currently takes a lot more energy. Let Sisyphus does his work, you shouldn’t be doing it for him.
However, what you should do is to understand that the cause of all your problems do not really hide in a person who doesn’t love us back, but in ourselves. If we’ve done our best but there are simply no results, you shouldn’t be grieving. Mourning over something that was never ours, thus, we never had it, is a sign of simple-mindedness, something we certainly are not.
Still, if you keep on thinking some miracle will happen, just think how much pain have you endured while reaching for something that doesn’t exist? Don’t live in your imagination but in a real world. Life is composed of time, so don’t waste time! Despite everything that is uncertain, only heaven awaits us, for sure.
Why should we be grieving over something that transcends our power?
Given the fact that each of us is unique and that we don’t need any special accessorize to confirm that or to stress our “value”, we still need to see what our qualities are, become aware of them, and if we still regret someone who cannot appreciate these qualities, then we really need to go to an intense self-esteem course.
The most important of all is to focus on what you have instead on dwelling upon something you’ve lost. At that moment of epiphany, you’ll realize you can’t lose something you’ve never had. Therefore, put a smile on your face, check out a new clothes collection or go to a park with your child and enjoy the beauty of pure and innocent play.
Trust me, every cloud has a silver lining, and if something makes you feel bad, just make sure you leave room for new opportunities and positive stuff in your life. Take this experience as a lesson that has affected you too much already and put an end to it. What is more, you’ll learn to appreciate yourself more than you’ve imagined in the first place and realize how strong you are too. After all, you need to know we cannot change nor control anyone but ourselves.
Translation: G. Dujmović